It's Thursday and that can only mean one thing...THROAT PUNCH THURSDAY! Life has been a little more chaotic than usual around here with the beginning of kindergarten. I have my 5 year old trying to feel her way around and get acclimated. She's been feeling left out and overwhelmed at school and I've been paying the price. Meanwhile, little sister is ducking to try and stay out of the way of flying tantrums, plus she is not without her own coping mechanisms.To say I have had my hands full is a grand understatement. Imagine my frustration when my 5 year old comes home and nonchalantly drops this bomb on me, "Mommy, my capris are not uniform dress code." Me: "What? What are you talking about honey? I read the list , they are fine." Bella:"No Mommy, in class the teacher made me and another kid stand up in front of the class and she said "THIS" is not dress code." Me:(in my head) WTF????? Did she just say she was on her kindergarten class version of what not to wear? You know the show where you are tried and convicted of fashion crimes? I calmed myself and thought, Breathe Debi.Wait for the note about the capris that will surely be sent home if they are not dress code appropriate. But that note never came. Shouldn't there be a note? I mean if it is serious enough to point it out to the entire class, doesn't it at least warrant a note? Or what, is my daughter supposed to wear them again and have a recurring role on What not to wear?
I emailed the culprit of such a heinous crime. I am waiting to hear her side before passing my final judgment. But in my mind, until I hear further, this is complete bullshit. My girl is already overwhelmed and feeling distraught about kindergarten, how the eff can theoretically pointing to her and laughing possibly make that situation better? I am pretty much pissed off to the extreme. It's hard enough letting go. Add to that the fact that now I don't feel like she is in capable hands and its that much harder. I met the transgressor, she seemed very nice and has been doing this for 15-20 years. This is no rookie. I don't let anyone, not ANY ONE, mistreat my child or make them feel like less than they are. I will go to blows with anyone who tries. Thats pretty normal right? I mean isn't that my job? Protector of the universe and defender of my children? I'm hoping something got lost in translation. I am fully aware that quite frequently 5 year olds tend to turn a simple notice into a meandering game of Chinese telephone. If I'm wrong in what I think has transpired, I am not to proud to apologize. But if a transgression has transpired, the offender has been put on notice. She now knows that my girl has an advocate who is paying attention.
Theoretical Throat Punch is most definitely being awarded to the person who did not use her common sense. You can't use someone's child as your own personal bad example...next time keep your thoughts to yourself and send me a damn note.I mean, what the hell can my kid do about it? She's 5, she doesn't dress herself. How in hell is my girl ever supposed to feel at ease if she is being called out for a damn button on her capris? Seriously, its not even a violation of dress code and if it were, it should have never have been pointed out to her in front of the entire rest of the class. Only my good sense and a Godly heart have convinced me to give her the benefit of the doubt.That same benefit is saving people from a literal throat punch.As a side note, just one more piece of ammunition for my girl to add to her arsenal of reasons why Kindergarten is suck! Come on people, you are not making it easy for me to convince little people that good things are waiting at school. Seriously. WTF?
I'm with you, woman! The teacher SHOULD NOT have called her out in front of the whole class. Canyousaybitchslap? I'm your newest follower! Thanks for following my Daily Dose of Crazy too!
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ReplyDeleteok im super seriously terrified to send my child to school now!! lol he is in preschool, i have a couple more years before he goes but damn woman... im like... HOMESCHOOLING might be a good idea! LOL geez!
ReplyDeleteThat is horrible!
ReplyDeleteNo way should the teacher have done that. Quietly sent you a note, yes. Called her out in front of the class, no.
My kindergartener didn't get to have recess the other day- the ENTIRE class was in trouble and had to walk laps instead. He couldn't even tell me what for- and he's an honest kid- he tells me when he does things wrong. 1. You NEVER give a whole class punishment unless the whole class actually did something wrong- and that RARELY happens and 2. If it's serious enough to take away recess, I expect a note about what it was.
That is terrible!!! Poor Bella!!!
ReplyDeleteI have had a couple incidents with my sons teacher (who was my daughters last year) when it comes to what I send my princess to school in.
We shop at Gymboree, anyway, The style they send to have for fall clothes is skirts and then the leggin pant things... Well my daughter were the leg things and the skirt and her shirt and a pair of boots and the teacher told her the skirt was to short! I did NOT get a note or anything from the teacher and when my daughter told me this I told her "There is NOTHING wrong with what you have on and if you like it you can wear it all you want. If she happens to say something to you about any of the clothes you have then you can tell her to give me a call"
Its so hard to raise confident and happy children, expecially girls with all of the people ready to tear then down and hurt them. Keep being the momma your being because Bella really needs that extra encourgment that she is awesome!!!!
Hope you have a great weekend!
I am so glad to hear that you are letting the teacher know that you are aware of her disrespectful behaviour toward your daughter. It is a tough job to advocate for your child...it sounds like you are on top of it. Way to go!
ReplyDeleteI really hope that the teacher didn't do that. Her job is to make kids like school. If they start hating it in kindergarten, it is a long 12 years. You are right about the note thing. The correct way to handle that would have been to write a note to you, put it in an envelope, and send it home with Bella. And that should have explained what was and was not allowed in the dress code. And she should have followed it up with something like, "I know that all of the rules are confusing for a new parent to a kid in school. Please call me if you questions and we can set up an appointment."
ReplyDeleteThis is a great post thhanks
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