Yesterday's Be a Better Parent Challenge - Day 10 - Be the fun one was a total blast and I took full advantage. We went shopping, hung out at the mall, played at the park, went to out to their favorite joint for breakfast, watched a kiddie movie on the big screen, and there may or may not be some ice cream cones in their very near future. We all had a great time having fun. I realized that sometimes just by not having to be the "enforcer" it really makes a big difference. I feel like I had a mini break from my kids yesterday because I go to be in the moment and enjoy them! How did it go for you Ladies? I think I should be the fun one at least once a week. It's good for all of us.
Today's Be a Better Parent Challenge - Day 11 - You're not perfect, and that's okay
is pretty self explanatory. We are Mommies, we try our best to do our best for our kids but we are only human. So cut yourself some slack. Take a deep, deep breath, exhale. Repeat after me...I am a good Mommy! I love my children. I'm having a bad day. I'm human. Accept it and get past it. We've all had our days when our children has sent us into what can only be described accurately as lunatic land. I, myself, have been known no ferociously roar..I mean ground shaking roar. I realize almost immediately that I have crossed the line. But what can I do at that point? So, I feel guilty. In fact, I am completely consumed with guilt when I lose it. Guilt is a totally useless emotion...at least for the person feeling it. I am not going to sulk and feel guilty anymore. I am going to try my best to be a grown up and keep my perspective. I know its easier said than done. I will try not to lose it but if/when I do, I will simply apologize. Let my children know that I am human and I make mistakes, but I am sorry for overreacting. I will allow them to verbalize and express their feelings and then I will forgive myself. I will get over it and move on. That is my plan.Let me know how you accept that you are not perfect.
I need to take the challenge to be the fun one.
ReplyDeleteI used to really beat myself up about the times when I would lose it. But then I realized that my 19 mo daughter gets over it in seconds and moves on with her day. And I need to do the same. I do make sure I apologize. I get down on her level and say, "Mommy is sorry for ________." Then I give her a hug and tell her I love her. And we both get on with our day. When she's older it will probably take a little more than that, but I think as long as you acknowledge your behavior apologize for it, everything will be fine. And you are teaching them a good lesson.
ReplyDeleteThe dog would probably appreciate the same treatment, since my yelling is often directed at him. LOL
Btw, I adore this challenge! I think it is awesome. I've told everyone I know about it. You totally rock!
Thanks for this post, and the challenge! I just saw it, but I am going to have to go back and read all of the other challenges. Right now my husband is out of town for a whole week and I am home with the kids. It's been both a struggle and an eye opener. I know I'm only human and I make mistakes, but part of making mistakes is working to get better. Thanks again, I'm looking forward to reading the rest of the posts.
ReplyDeleteI second what Shell said
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