Even worse than that, her 5 year old sister was all like "Gabs, say you're sorry. You don't mean that. You are going to hurt her feelings.Say you are sorry!"She was totally backpedaling for her little sister. She was trying to force her sister to give me a pity pretty. I won't lie, I winced and then I cried a little bit. You know a la the pollution American Indian from the 70's commercials. Oh yeah, I know, it was stupid but hey, I do have feelings.I wasn't feeling particularly attractive today anyways,what with the bloating , the friggin "ponytail", and the sweats and sweatshirt. I know its not rational to have a semi breakdown if a 2 year old tells you that you are ugly. I mean it wasn't like my husband said I was ugly. It was practically a baby, which really made matters worse. I mean isn't it pretty much unheard of and most certainly against the laws of nature for a child to think their Mommy is ugly? Seriously, I knew kids growing up who would knock you off your bike and kick your ass if you said their Mom was fat. I can't even imagine what would have happened if you were so
I had to do it! Just in case y'all didn't know which crying Indian I was referring to:)
im so sorry, i can see why you are upset. and don't feel silly for something like that coming from a two year old. its even more upsetting because we know they don't say things specifically to hurt our feelings. i remember years ago a child telling me i had a gut, i immediately starting working out again. We all have our dumpy days but if that's the norm and not the exception we start to feel badly about ourselves. i'm a big fan of inner beauty vs outer beauty, but if your appereance is affecting your psyche then its time to start doing something about it. I have taught a lot of classes on how moms can and should find the time to take care of themselves, and how it does not take "away" from your children but teaches them valuable lessons on taking care of themselves, having confidence and goals.
ReplyDeleteone thing to add, since you have girls you are kinda lucky, because you can do a fun thing with them...like a day of beauty. little facials, nail painting, dress-up and for you makeup. you guys would have a blast.
ReplyDelete@ Dina, Thanks. It was really not a brilliant scenario to actually be sad about what my 2 year old said. God knows there was no malicious intent.Mommy just needs a makeover..really just some time . It was a wake up call. I certainly don't want to be a poor role model.We do days of beauty, its just been hectic lately. I feel a pedicure coming on! It was just one of those days when I was feeling a little frumpy anyways. Thanks for the advice.
ReplyDeleteAwww...I'm sure she didn't mean it. :) Kids say the craziest things sometimes...especially at that age. I remember one of my twins saying I was FAT once. And my other kiddos got on him too, of course. LOL I like the idea of the "day of beauty." We could all use that every now and then.
ReplyDeleteP.S. That commercial ALWAYS makes me shed a tear! Love the topic title too..LOL I remember singing that when I was small.