Monday, March 29, 2010
Mean Mommies
Ever had an instance in your adult life as a Mommy where you felt like you were instantaneously back in high school? That instance of which I talk is Mean Mommies; otherwise known as Mommies who like to bully.None of us are perfect, we're all just trying to survive and get through this part of our life without significantly damaging our children and hopefully with all of our hair in tact. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely Love being a Mommy. It is exactly where I always knew, that I always wanted to be; sharing my life with some amazing little people, loving on them and making some memories. But there are those times when we all need a little lifeline. I've referenced my issue with talking incessantly when I am around other Mommies. It's the sheer fact that I need that adult conversation to keep my brain from turning to mush. I also happen to love having that sounding board to bounce all of my craziness off of and have someone else nod there head in agreement. These little things are what get us through the rough times. These small gestures from our sisters in the field; help us to make sense of it all and put it into perspective; to actually enjoy this wonderful part of life we are experiencing, regardless of how exhausted or stressed out we may be. Sometimes, we put our hand out for a hand up, we make ourselves vulnerable to a new person because we think we could all use another friend and instead of friendship extended, we get bupkis. Shut down and denied like a husband trying to get some sugar during that first month you're home with a newborn. It just ain't happening. I've watched it happen. A Mommy introduces herself into a conversation between two other Mommies, at some child oriented function i.e gymnastics, Gymboree, ballet, soccer, and she is shut completely down. Denied. Ignored. The other Mommies act as if they never even heard her speak. It is not pretty and it is certainly not nice.Don't we want to be better examples than that for our own children? I don't want my girls running around thinking they are better than anyone else, or having a sense of entitlement. We are all people and ,as such, we should all be treated equally. Please, Mean Girls are bad enough..is there really any place in this world for Mean Mommies? I think not!
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Shell @ things I cant say.. calls them ladies Motherbitches.. Lol!!
ReplyDeleteI dont think thats right, and its hard getting out there & making new "mom" friends someone you should be able to relate with.. but thats not always the case and it sucks! But you have us mothers in bloggy world to fall back on if you ever need to talk :)
Brittney, LOL! Shell is right, "Motherbitches" does sound better! Luckily, I have not had the run in with the Mean "Motherbitches". I am a big mouth and you can't keep me out of a conversation by ignoring that I'm talking to you. No not me, I'd just talk louder until you got fed up and said "What?"But, I have a girlfriend who these mean Mommies just love to pick on and it drives me crazy!!! She's learning, now she just keeps on talking until they actually include her in the conversation:)
ReplyDeleteWhen my kids were younger we had some like that running PTSA and a "school advisory council" (They work with the principle on ideas and budget decisions for the school) Once I figured out this was a club & I wasn't in it, I just amused myself by asking detailed questions about everything they did & refusing to cave to their leader & vote with the pack when I disagreed. They didn't like that.
ReplyDeleteSomethings never change. The mean girls in high school are likely to be the mean mothers now. A mother should know how difficult this job sometimes is and although we don't always agree, we should be open minded to each others choices and experiences.
ReplyDeleteI really like motherbitches. I need to add it to my vernacular immediately .